A Harvard professor is sharing the number one thing every marriage should have in order for it to last a lifetime. Dr. Arthur Brooks, a social science expert, has figured out the secret to a long-lasting relationship after researching love for more than two decades. And it has nothing to do with romantic passion.
While appearing on “The Drive” podcast with , Brooks explains it’s all about finding a partner who’s also your friend. While that may sound simple, he says that bond is the key because it will last long after initial chemistry fades. “The goal of your marriage is not passion, it’s friendship,” Brooks explains. “This is the goal, you must be close friends, ideally best friends, with your spouse.”
The expert also revealed a couple of indicators that a marriage may not be built to last, including partners who feel lonely in their relationship. “One of the greatest predictors of divorce is partners who are lonely while living together,” Brooks explains, “And this means that the only thing you have in common is your kids.” And don’t worry if your passion isn’t as strong as in the early days of the romance, he says when people have been together for a long time, that’s “healthy, normal, and actually advisable because it’s more sustainable in the long run.”⠀
Source: Daily Mail
Scott's Thoughts:
- Being married to your bestie and having things in common with them is important, unless you want to be one of those couples staring at each other across the table with nothing to talk about!
- Sometimes there is "comfort in silence" which is not a bad thing!
- There still should be some intimacy shouldn't there?