Have you heard of the 80/20 rule? It comes from the Pareto principle, which basically says that 80% of results will come from just 20% of the action. It suggests that 80% of your energy should go toward figuring out your long-term goals - or what you want, while the other 20% is for obstacles standing in your way.
It can be applied to all kinds of things, including eating plans, where you eat a well-balanced diet 80% of the time and then you have some wiggle room to “cheat” 20% of the time. And the 80/20 rule can also be applied to our dating lives, as a way to spend less time fixated on what’s not working and more time trying to maximize what IS working. For example, say you’re dating someone and you’re in that gray area, wondering what you are and feeling like you’re the one who always contacts them to set up dates.
By applying the 80/20 rule, you step back and give the other person the opportunity to do some of the work. You let them make the first move 80% of the time and you initiate the other 20%. Dating expert Dr. Lurve explains, “You want to be with someone who will put in the same amount of effort—they need to like you just as much as you like them.” So if things come to a screeching halt as soon as you stop making all the effort, this will show you it’s probably not meant to be and you can save yourself months of wondering if things will work out.
Source: PureWow
Scott's Thoughts:
- This does sound better than torturing yourself with trying to figure out how they feel about you.
- I have used 80/20 rule at work. Never in personal.
- Has one of your relationships come to an end as soon as you stopped putting in all the effort? Were you relieved or disappointed?