First dates can be cringey, full of awkward small talk and not knowing how to split the bill. So when a Reddit user asked, “What’s an unspoken rule on a first date?” people seem to have a lot of ideas of the rules more people need to follow. From more than 6-thousand responses, these are some of the best.
- “Be there with honest intentions and nothing else.”
- “First dates should always be intentionally short with an option to extend. Coffee, froyo, drinks, things that can turn into an hour of talking or 'would you like to grab a bite to eat?'”
- “Don't talk about ex's or relationships, or add pressure to the date, make it all about having a good time for the both of you. Do something fun that will get you talking naturally, this is not a job interview.”
- “Be respectful. Let them talk and pay attention to what they say. It feels good for everyone to feel acknowledged and listened to.”
- “Brush your teeth and dress like you care.”
- “Usually when asked a question I’d answer it and then hit her with a ‘what about you?’ To ensure that I wasn’t dominating the convo. Let the other person speak “
- “Whoever initiated the date, has to be able to pay for the whole date. The invitee, however, has to suggest splitting the bill.”
- “Don't talk at your date the whole time, that kills so many people's interest. Err on the side of letting them talk about themselves more but you absolutely have to add to the conversation and make it lively.”
- “Don't be sh*tty to waiters/service staff”
- “Have a shower beforehand.”
- “Don't excuse yourself to go to the bathroom and then accidently think about your ex while in there, have to fight back tears, and then come back to the table after way too long, with puffy red eyes. Whoops!”
- “Don’t drink too much.”
- “Don't be on your phone the whole time.”
- “Both should know it is a date.”
- “Leave the coin collection at home, wow her with that on the second date”
Source: Reddit
Scott's Thoughts:
- Also, don’t order an extra meal to eat at home later if your date is paying!
- What unspoken rule do you think more people should follow on first dates?
- What’s the most interesting first date you’ve ever been on?