It’s prom season once again, and while the traditional high school dance is a huge, exciting milestone for teens, it can also be a big source of stress for them and their parents. For moms and dads, concerns over our teens’ safety, including driving, drinking, sexual pressure and whether they’ll feel included or overwhelmed can take over before they put their corsages on.
But high schoolers have their own worries about prom. “For teens already navigating anxiety, social pressure or body image concerns, prom can become emotionally charged,” explains Dr. Jennifer King, assistant professor and co-director of the Center on Trauma and Adversity at Case Western Reserve University. Fortunately, there are things parents can do to help support their kids and keep them safe during prom - both emotionally and physically.
Here’s what doctors and mental health experts recommend:
- Talk about the plan ahead of time - Psychologist Dr. Ayesha Ludhani advises having a calm, non-judgemental talk about detailed prom plans with your teen. She explains, “When teens feel trusted rather than micromanaged, they’re more likely to open up and make safe, thoughtful decisions.”
- Make a “what would you do” plan together - Talk to teens about what they’ll do if something goes wrong, like their date crossing a boundary or if they feel unsafe at a party. Marriage and family therapist Viviana McGovern says if teens have a plan they helped create for these situations, they’re more likely to use it.
- Name pressures before they happen - “Whether it’s about drinking, hooking up, or looking a certain way, teens often feel they have to ‘perform’ for prom,” Dr. King explains. “Saying something like, ‘It’s okay to step outside, say no, or leave early. You don’t owe anyone anything on prom night,’ helps them hold onto their inner compass.”
- Give support, but don’t hover - That’s easier said than done for parents, but letting your teen know that you’re there, no questions asked, if they need anything can make a big difference.
- Give them an “out” - Make it clear that you’ll come get them anytime, from anywhere. Creating a “code word” or phrase they can use discreetly gives them independence while knowing help is a call or text away.
Source: Parents
Scott's Thoughts:
- As long as my kid made better decisions than I did at prom, they were fine. :)
- I actually was safe after promo because we had the all night after promo party at the mall.
- What are you doing to help your teen stay safe and have fun at prom?