Most of us don’t want to hurt other people’s feelings, especially if we know they have feelings for us. That’s why so many people end up beating around the bush when expressing their romantic feelings - especially if they’re not good - according to relationship expert Blaine Anderson.
The thing is, trying to let someone down easy by not saying how you really feel can lead to a lot of confusion, even if you mean well. To help people understand what their crush truly means, Anderson is sharing the “common cop-outs” used to subtly reject someone.
- If they say “I don’t want to ruin our friendship,” what they probably mean is “I’m not attracted to you, but you’re my friend and I don’t want to hurt your feelings.”
- If you’re trying to start a flirty text exchange, but it’s not going well and your crush says, “I’m just really bad at texting,” it could be translated to “I’m not really interested and I’m only responding to be polite.”
- In the early stages of dating, if you haven’t yet appeared on their Instagram grid, it could be a red flag that they’re keeping it a secret. If you ask about it and they say, “I don’t post who I date on social media,” what the dating expert says that probably really means is “I don’t want people to know we’re dating … at least not yet.”
According to a survey by NumberBarn, 75% of singles have been ghosted before, but there may be a way to make sure it doesn’t happen to you. Sex and relationship therapist Karli Kucko says these are the signs someone is about to disappear on you:
- When they’re suddenly vague about plans, saying things like, “I’ll double-check my calendar” or “I’ll let you know when I’m free next.”
- If it takes them an uncharacteristically long time to respond to your messages.
- And when they cancel plans at the last minute with a really lame excuse.
Source: NY Post
Scott's Thoughts:
- I mean, how many times can someone have to work late or suddenly not feel well before you feel like they’re blowing you off?
- I think I have heard these things before.
- Wake up and smell the coffee guys. These are obvious signs.